LGBT Career Advice and Opinion - May 2026

  • What Ageing Teaches You About Friendship

    Posted on Thursday, May 28, 2026 by Ian Thomas — No comments

    One of the strangest parts of getting older is realising how many friendships quietly change without ever officially ending. Nobody argues. Nobody announces anything. Life simply moves. People get busier. Relationships become priorities. Work takes over. Families grow. Messages slow down. Plans happen less often. And one day you realise somebody who once knew everything about your life now feels ...

  • When Confidence Becomes Performance

    Posted on Wednesday, May 20, 2026 by Ian Thomas — No comments

    Confidence is often treated like certainty. But for many people, confidence is actually performance. Something carefully managed. Carefully maintained. Carefully projected. A lot of gay men learn this early without fully realising it. You learn how to read rooms. How to adjust yourself. How to appear comfortable even when you are anxious. How to become socially acceptable before emotionally ...

  • Why So Many Gay Men Struggle to Slow Down

    Posted on Saturday, May 16, 2026 by Ian Thomas — No comments

    For some people, rest feels natural. For others, it feels uncomfortable almost immediately. The moment things become quiet, anxiety appears. You start thinking about what you should be doing. Emails. Work. Goals. Money. Productivity. Self-improvement. Something always feels unfinished. A lot of gay men know this feeling well, even if they rarely speak about it openly. Because for many of us, ...

  • What Happens When Your Career Becomes Your Identity?

    Posted on Monday, May 11, 2026 by Ian Thomas — No comments

    Somewhere along the way, work stopped being just work. It became identity. The thing that made you feel valuable. Safe. Impressive. Needed. And once that happens, it becomes very difficult to separate who you are from what you achieve. A lot of ambitious people understand this feeling, but many gay men know it especially well. Because for some of us, achievement was never just about success. It ...

  • Why So Many Gay Men Feel Behind in Life

    Posted on Saturday, May 9, 2026 by Ian Thomas — No comments

    There comes a point in life where time starts feeling louder. Not in an obvious way. Quietly. You notice it in small moments. Someone younger gets promoted ahead of you. Friends start talking about retirement plans. Relationships around you become more settled. People begin building lives that look permanent. And somewhere underneath it all sits a thought many gay men rarely say out loud: “I ...

  • The Burnout Nobody Notices in High Performers

    Posted on Friday, May 8, 2026 by Ian Thomas — No comments

    There’s a certain type of exhaustion that hides behind competence. The kind where deadlines are met. Emails are answered. Meetings are attended with a smile. The work gets done. The career looks stable from the outside. Maybe even successful. But underneath it, something is running on empty. A lot of people know this feeling intimately, even if they rarely talk about it openly. Because for many ...